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| Tribble |
Sometimes you meet someone online who touches you in a special way. It's happened to me at various online venues. One friend who impressed me with his thoughtful posts made a special impression when he talked about his cat, Tribble, and shared pictures. Real men love cats and Frank is a real man whose best friend, Tribble, was generously shared with his friends. A long and loving relationship, they were the perfect example of The Human-Animal Bond. It truly hurt my heart when I found out that Tribble died. Frank posted a tribute to Tribble. I was moved to tears and asked his permission to share it here. I don't have Guest Bloggers so this is unusual. Frank shared some photos, as well. Here's Frank Incremona's Memorial to his beloved best friend, Tribble.
Saying Goodbye to My Best Friend
A Tribute to my cat, Tribble
When I met Tribble for the first time, he was a tiny fluff
of hair… He was four months old, only weighed four pounds, and had a terrible
case of ringworm. He was also malnourished and had vitamin deficiencies.
They put him down on the ground, at my request, but told me
he wouldn’t come running to me. He did just did the opposite. He ran over, ran
around me then climbed up onto my lap and fell asleep. All I said was, “He’s
coming home with me.” They couldn’t believe what they saw, stating that it’s
never happened before.
I brought him home then drove off to Petsmart to get the
necessary accouterments… Water Dish, Food Bowl, Kibble Dish, Food (both wet and
dry), litter box a few toys and a comfy bed to sleep in.
When I fed him the first of many cans of kitten food, he
devoured the dish as if he’d not eaten in weeks… once the wet food was gone he
found his kibble dish and proceeded to empty about half of it. He looked like a
little Buddha, his tummy distended from the amazing amount of food he’d
ingested. All that done, he climbed up my pant leg, then implanted himself on
my lap for a nap. When he curled up you couldn’t tell where he started or
ended. He was just a ball of hair… a little Tribble. That was October 8, 1995.
The vet checkup the next day was very eventful. My vet did
the perfunctory blood panels, and examination… but there was one thing that he
said looked odd…Tribble had a sticky discharge all over his ears and head. He
came back in to the room with a UV Light. Plugged in the light then shined on
Tribble’s fur. He lit up like a bouquet of fiber optics. It was so bad that he
told me that, “to treat this systematically, he will most likely die.” The next thing I knew, I was taking him home
with a pre-surgical shampoo with instructions to bathe him every other day
until the doctor said to stop. It took over 3 months to eradicate the ringworm.
And Tribble was very cooperative about getting bathed. He seemed to enjoy it;
probably because he felt so good after he was dry and not looking like a
drowned rat.
Tribble had the run of the house, and at night he would make
me carry him to bed to rest. He always chose a spot by my arm so it could be
used as a pillow. I didn’t mind. At least he didn’t snore.
The following June I had accepted a position with a company
in Tennessee. Everything was packed and on a truck except for some essentials;
clothes, toiletries, litter box, food and food dishes, and everything else that
Tribble needed. We made the 14 hour
trip, only stopping for gas, toilet stops, food and giving Tribble some treats
for being so cooperative on the long trip. He slept on my lap for the entire
journey.
My job in Tennessee had me doing a lot of travelling. And to
be sure Tribble was well cared for while I was away, my vet recommended a
lovely woman to pet sit. Since her husband had passed, Linda was using her time
caring for animals. And Tribble loved her. After the first time returning from
a trip, Tribble met me at the front door. Tail wagging, meowing like crazy and
turning in circles!
As soon as I was in the house, and the door was closed, he
ran to the bathtub then jumped in. He was running around in circles then
flipped himself over so his belly was exposed. I started giving him belly
scratches and he wriggled around in the tub. I looked at him and said, “you’re
being silly!” After that first time, Tribble did this for me every time I
returned from a trip. He’d just in the tub and get excited and I would say,
“Where’s my silly kitty?” and he would flip over on his back to get scratches.
As he got older and it because tougher for him to jump he stopped doing it.
As a matter of fact, Tribble traveled quite frequently with
me; by car, by train, by ferry and aircraft. Any time I found myself flying
back home for business Tribble always came with to visit his Mom-Mom and
Pop-Pop. They loved seeing him – more than me, I’m afraid.
A few years later we moved back to PA because my dad was
ill, and after he passed I accepted a job with a company in Georgia. Once
again, we moved and this time into our own house! Tribble was a little
apprehensive of the new surroundings, at first. But when a Red Tail Hawk landed
on our deck, he sat poised for almost 30 minutes watching this great bird resting
on the railing. He came back at least once per day, maybe looking for a resting
spot, or more likely trying to figure out how to get the cat on the other side
of the window!
Our home in Georgia had a drive under garage. As soon as the
garage door started to rise he would run from the bedroom (where he usually
napped) to the interior house entrance in the garage. As soon as I closed the
car door I could hear him meowing, wanting me to open the door. I had a floor
mat at the base of the stairs and once inside I would say, “Okay, clean your
feet then we can go upstairs.” He would knead on the mat, simulating what I did
with my feet, then ran up the stairs. He couldn’t wait to jump in the tub and
play silly kitty with me.
A few years later we found ourselves up north, working from
home and trying to figure out what we would do next. It was during this time
that Mom-Mom became a frequent babysitter when I had to go out of town on
business. That’s when I found out that Tribble loved to eat whatever happened to
fall on the ground.. A palm leaf and twisty tie were the most notable items.
The palm leaf made it to his colon… and required an enema to extract it from
his rectum. The vet was impressed that he was able to pass it and placed it in
a plastic bag to show me what was backing up Tribble. The nursing staff was
laughing hysterically! Tribble was not amused.
A couple of years later and Tribble was experiencing the
same symptoms as the palm leaf so I brought him to the vet expecting that
another enema was in order. Only this time, they told me he required surgery to
get it out. The twisty tie was stuck in
his stomach and irritating the lining to the point where nothing could get
through. A couple of days and $1300 later, and he was back to his old self.
Tribble continued to have digestive problems that were
corrected by only supplying him with small amounts of food over the course of
the day; breakfast, lunch, dinner and an overnight snack of about 1.5 ounces of
wet food with a constant supply of kibble. We were experiencing a pleasant time
no longer worried about vomiting or diarrhea.
In 2007 I purchased a home in the Pocono Mountains. It sat
on two acres and there was wildlife everywhere! It was great because there were
plenty of windows for Tribble to have naps and there was plenty of deer that
came to visit. He loved mornings because we would have a herd of deer in our
backyard, some coming up on the back deck looking for some breakfast treats. In
the fall I would give them apples and in the dead of winter I would place bales
of alfalfa hay in the yard so they would have something to eat. It also kept
them off the state game lands, too!
One afternoon I came downstairs to see Tribble napping in
his beanbag chair, and a little field mouse, fast asleep under his front legs.
He wasn’t what you call, a mouser! When he wasn’t on the beanbag chair he was
on his bed in my office, napping while I worked.
Then in 2009 Tribble developed a sort of temporary paralysis
of his back legs. The vet couldn’t
figure out what was wrong. His x-ray showed no break or dislocations. Yet he
couldn’t seem to use his back legs. The vet sent us home with an antibiotics
and prednisone to try and correct the problem.
I gave him the prednisone the slept on the floor next to him
so I could assist with litter box use or to allow him to eat and drink as he
wanted. About 2:30 a.m. I woke to find him missing from his bed. I turned on
the lights to find him at the other end of the room. I called his name and he
slowly, walked over to me! I continued the prednisone as prescribed and he made
a full recovery. A little over a year later, he experienced the same situation.
And once again, a course of prednisone did the trick. Crisis averted!
Over the last four years we have had an uneventful time. Tribble
had his daily routine; wake me up early; have breakfast; a quick brush then a
nap. He enjoyed his food, played with his toys and looked forward to bedtime
when he took over most of the bed. His annual checkups were all good, and the
vet was amazed as to his resiliency. His blood panels were all excellent!
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| Yes, Tribble liked to sleep on Frank's legs! |
About two months ago, age finally caught up to my Tribble.
His gait was not normal; walking seemed to be tedious and jumping up or down
from the loveseat (his personal domain) was now an almost impossibility. He
would walk over to the loveseat, sit down then wait for someone to pick him up
then place him on the seat. This was followed by a brushing and a long nap.
About two months ago I noticed his condition worsening. His
breathing was labored, his interest in eating had gone down some, be he always
seemed to eat and drink, and pee and poop. He was now having little “accidents”
around the house. But it was unclear if he was having problems holding his pee,
or if he simply didn’t realize that he needed to pee and it just releaed.
His respiration was too high and then he started to exhibit
sounds you get when there’s fluid developing in your lungs. One night he woke
me from a somewhat restful sleep and simultaneously dry heaved and peed. I
cleaned him up then got him back to sleep… and he seemed to be okay for the
rest of the night, although his breathing wasn’t normal. The next day,
Tribble’s interest in food declined immensely. I am at a point where I know I
need to put him down so he doesn’t suffer, yet I find myself second guessing
the timing. My vet wasn’t in today so I chose to wait for tomorrow. When
tomorrow comes I will take him, or I will choose to spend a few more days with
him before I have to let him go. I am struggling with this decision, partly for
Tribble; if he has more time he should have it here, with me. Partly for me;
this little fur ball has been my constant companion for the last 19 years, and
he ahs become more than a pet; more than a possession. He’s become my child,
and he’s shown me unconditional love, through good and bad times.
Before I knew I was dealing with cancer, Tribble knew I was
ill and would not leave my side. After both of my surgeries he stayed with me
when I took naps during recovery only leaving momentarily for a food and water
break or to use his litter box. I can honestly say that I am a better man for
having spent the last 19 years with my fuzzy son. As a result, I just can’t
make this decision for him without giving him every chance possible for more
time on earth. Even though I know I will see him one day, at the bridge. No
words that I write can put an exclamation point on this precious, little life
that has brought me so much joy. To look in the window to see him meowing at
me, happy that I have returned home is something that is hard to describe. I
was his whole world, and somehow I have to be the one to end it for him. And I’m
not sure that I am strong enough to do it.
The day has finally come for me to say goodbye to my friend,
Tribble. I don’t think that I have ever experienced more sadness in my life. I
called the vet this morning and they asked if I wanted to do it this morning,
or in the afternoon. I told them that there was no good time to get this done,
so I decided that we needed one more lunch, some treats and some extra brushing
before saying goodbye. What little breakfast he ate was Italian Tuna in Olive
Oil, one of his favorites… Lunch will probably be some low sodium ham (another
favorite) and quite possibly some ice cream.
Then I will lay low so I can grieve for him…maybe take a
bike ride, albeit a cold bike ride to clear my head then solitude for at least
a few days.
If you have a cat, dog, rabbit, ferret, or any other animal
in your home give them a hug and kiss.
Spend some extra time with them… time is something that we get so little
of with our fur kids. And before we know it, they are gone…
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All pictures courtesy of
Frank Incremona |
